HOMILY
FOR THE FEAST OF THE HOLY FAMILY OF JESUS, MARY AND JOSEPH
Rev.
Fr. Ezekoka Peter Onyekachi
Wherever He enters, He
makes Holy. The family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph is called Holy because of the
presence of the child Jesus. The feast of the Holy Family commemorates their
life together as the celebration focuses on religious family life. The Feast
Day was officially instituted by Pope Benedict XV in 1921, and was then moved
from being celebrated on the Sunday after Epiphany to the Sunday after
Christmas in 1969. The feast of Holy Family is not celebrated to prove the
shortcomings of our natural families. This feast does not exist to make our various
families feel less in dignity; even though some families are marked by some
shame. The family remains the nucleus of every society. It is the domestic
Church that contains the very first set of people we meet in life. One thing so
fascinating about the family is that we do not really choose its members. We are
simply placed by God in any family we find ourselves. This is what the
existentialist Philosophers such as Jean Paul Satre regards as facticity (the
character of the thrownness of our being). We are thrown into our families. We do
not choose our parents or our siblings. This is what God does for us.
After the terrorist
attack of September 11, 2001 in the United States of America, on the World
Trade Centre, Queen Elizabeth 11 of England in her condolence message was clear
to the Americans that nothing that was said can ever take away the grief and
anguish the people were passing. In her words, she said “Grief is the price we
pay for love.” This sentence is very relevant to the feast we celebrate today. Every
one of us would agree that no one can actually love us like the love from
family which is natural. No one can also hurt us like family when they disappoint.
The family remains the epicentre of love. We receive our first love there, our
first cries, our first joy, our first hope; and indeed, our first ‘everything.’
To portray this family importance, the Igbos would say: iwe nwanne anaghi eru n’okpukpu (the grief against a brother does
not last), ozu shiwe ushi, enyi ka nwanne
agbaa oso (only the family can really stick to us in times of trouble. The words
of Elizabeth 11 to Americans that grief is the price we pay for love makes us
understand ourselves when we go an extra mile to love, forgive, help and care
for family members, even when they have disappointed us over and over again.
Remembering the pains
Joseph had passed through since the pregnancy of Mary, the flight into Egypt
and now the words of Simeon to Mary in the Gospel (Luke 2:22-40) opens to our
minds the love from family. They did not give. They continued to love and
cherish their son. After his nunc
dimittis, Simeon said to the mother of the child in Luke 2:34-35: Behold, this
child is destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel and for a sign that
is spoken against (and a sword will pierce through your own soul also), that
the secret thoughts of many may be revealed. Mary’s choice together
with the choice of Joseph to love Christ in a society that was replete with sycophancy
surely has some consequences. It will bring them grief. And so, grief is the
price they would pay for loving Jesus. Even this Holy Family had this grief. Even
when it appears that the more we love, the more we suffer grief –never you stop
loving your family. As holy as this family was, there was still grief. Mary would
pass through a lot, ranging from the ministry of Jesus, to his passion,
crucifixion and death, she remained focused. She endured everything.
The lesson we learn
here is this character of endurance for the sake of our family members. We also
see this character of enduring pains and grief in the First Reading (Gen. 15:1-6;
21:1-3) in the life of Abraham and Sarah. Abraham was afraid for his childlessness.
He was childless, yes, but he had no intention to divorce Sarah, or to marry
another wife. The Lord knew his heart and then came to him to calm him. Abraham
was concerned that a servant born in his household will become his heir. God in
turn promises Abraham that his own son will be his heir. Abraham responded in
faith, and had to set aside his worries, fears and doubts. His righteousness is
built on the basis of this response. His total reliance upon God puts him in
right relationship to God. He waited patiently on the Lord. It was in chapter
21 that this promise was fulfilled. The child didn’t come immediately, yet
Abraham believed and waited. At a very old age, Sarah gave birth to Isaac.
Endurance is fanned by
faith. The endurance of Abraham to love and stick to his wife despite all odds,
and to believe and wait patiently for the Lord’s time is a result of faith. This
is exactly what the writer of the Letter to the Hebrews made us to understand
about Abraham. Many times, the writer uses the formula, by faith. By faith, Abraham obeyed God. By Faith, Sarah got
conceived. By faith too, Abraham trusted God’s fidelity by trying to offer his
only son, Isaac. By faith, Mary endured the pains of being the mother of Jesus.
It is by faith that every family will survive. By faith, we can bear one
another’s grief and pains. By faith, we garner the doggedness to pay the price
of love. May we never as a family relegate the importance of faith. At this day
which is the last this year 2017, my prayers are that every family will receive
and abide by this gift of faith, and carry it over to 2018. Amen. God bless
you.